Groom kicks sisters out of ceremony for ignoring strict wedding rule
A groom has revealed how his family “sabotaged” his wedding.
In an anonymous post on Reddit, the man explained that he recently got married.
“We wanted a child-free wedding,” he explained, so he and his wife-to-be let everyone know ahead of the big day.
Everyone was okay with it, except for his family.
The man said he has three sisters who all have children ranging from two to ten years old.
“My mom said it was illogical to not allow kids since (1 this never happened in the family and (2 my sisters live towns away so the kids can’t be left alone,” he said.
But after a lot of arguing, they finally agreed not to bring the kids.
When it came to the big day, all of the guests had abided by the no children rule.
Then he saw his two sisters arriving with their kids, “I immediately went to ask what’s the deal,” he said.
“They began arguing with me when I said I won’t be letting them in with the kids.
“I had to get the security involved to make them leave.”
Later that night he said he received nasty texts from them, and his cousin even posted about his “s* wedding” on Facebook.
Days later, he gathered everyone together to try and explain what he felt they did wrong.
“I asked If I allowed my sisters with their kids what message does that send to my inlaws and friends who wanted to bring kids but they couldn’t?” the man explained.
But it turned out that his mum had told his sisters to ignore the rule and that “she’d deal with [him] later.”
They told him that he ruined his own wedding by being unreasonable and that the family would always remember the wedding as a disaster.
His mum also suggested that the only way to fix the damage that had been caused was to have another wedding/ party where children would be invited, something he refused to do.
“They blamed my wife and claimed it was deliberate,” he said.
“They started talking to my wife trying to convince her that they don’t approve of what happened and that they’re giving us the chance to fix the situation otherwise the relationship is damaged.
“This caused me a headache and I don’t think what I did was wrong.
“I just wanted them to have some respect for my wife and her family.”
He asked users whether he was out of order for kicking his sisters out, but the majority of people were in agreeance that his family were disrespectful for ignoring his wishes – especially his mum.
One person said: “Your wedding, you set the rules and the guest list. Kids weren’t on it. They broke the rules intentionally and they suffered the consequences. Stand your ground.”
Another agreed: “Exactly! DO NOT throw that second party, because it’ll only send the message that you were wrong and they were right and you shouldn’t have held a child-free wedding.”
Whilst a third said: “Does not sound like your mother respects you.”
“THEY ruined your wedding by completely disregarding your wishes,” said someone else.
Adding: “Your mother intentionally sabotaged your wedding and your sisters went along with it. If they are unhappy with the results, that is on THEM.”
And one person said: “This is about more than a wedding — your family, specifically your mother, is trying to villainise your wife and make her out to be the bad guy here. Be aware that if you don’t deal with this, perhaps by cutting off the ones who won’t stop, your wife may not be willing to put up with that treatment.”